Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed Paperback – March 2, 2021

The book came in perfect condition, was a fast but very valuable read, and I took lots of notes. Shipping was good and I’m very happy with this purchase. Definitely a book I’d recommend to anyone interested in dating!! It’s practical and Christ-centered which is so good in a world where dating is more and more “just for fun” without an end goal of marriage.

I wish I could give this book more than 5 stars. Outdated needs to be in every household, needs to be read by singles, dating couples, married couples, and parents. This book makes Christian dating doable, less scary and exciting. JP shows, through Scripture and personal stories, how God’s grace is available for everyone and it is never too late to make lifestyle changes to point our lives towards Christ. My favorite feature of this book are “The lies and “The Truths”. Each chapter beings with a lie that is advertised to us in our culture. By the end of the chapter, the truth given has been supported with Scripture and inspires you to make these mind shifts and lifestyle changes in order to strive towards that truth. I have listened to podcast on podcast of Becoming Something and this book is the icing on the cake. There are a lot of problems in modern culture and I can see where dating is at the source. As a college student, I see these problems everywhere I look, in myself and my community. I am so thankful for a book that can transform what I thought to be “ok” and the backbone to talk to my friends about these issues too. The most important conclusion this book gives us is to remember that the happily ever after that we should be chasing is one with God, earthly marriage is simply a vessel to help some of us get there. Thank you JP for your honest words that often voice the unpopular opinion but backing it up with Scripture to give them validity. Changing these simple dating “lies” can make a HUGE positive impact on modern culture.

After my divorce, I knew I wanted to honor God and myself when I started dating again. The author of the book speaks truth on how we should date with a purpose while maintaining Godly principles. It was encouraging to read the advice, while not sugar-coated. Although it is written for a young adult audience (I am in my 40s), I felt that I benefitted from the wisdom offered. I recently purchased a copy as a gift for my 15-year-old niece so she may be prepared and do dating the right way with God's purpose in mind. I plan to gift it to my son when the time is right.

I’ve been listening to JP for years and this book quickly summarizes all the hours of podcast listening for scraps of helpful dating advice into a book that keeps you hooked from the first page to the last. I read it easily in a day.In each of the 12 chapters, JP breaks down the most common traps we fall into when dating—ideas like “The One” or “Love at First Sight.” Note: He writes from a heavily Christian standpoint, so if that’s not your jam, that’s okay. I still would argue that this book contains suggestions that are for ANYONE. We are all valuable and should date like we are.He approaches each topic with humility. Nearly every chapter includes some variation on this theme: “Please don’t be like me. I messed this up. I do have a good marriage but I’ve had to WORK for it and I don’t want you to have the problems I did.” It’s helpful to hear that, because I feel (particularly in the church), advice on finding a partner comes from people who married their high school sweetheart or first boyfriend ever.Ideas that Made Me Think:1. Beauty is falsely equated with better sex.2. Attraction is taught.3. Compatibility is fiction.Lines That Made Me Cheer:1. Don’t blame God for your breakup.2. Singleness is not a period of waiting for something better.3. Real romance is committing.Towards the end of the book, JP gives us a few concrete steps to dating better, and they are shockingly easy. I won’t spoil them (because I think the book deserves your $$$), but trust me when I say—it is ACTUALLY easier than you think.I’m really excited that JP wrote this book. It contains straightforward, simple, sometimes brutal but GOOD advice for those of us swimming around in a dating culture that feels more messy and more toxic than we want it to be. I was encouraged and empowered in my own dating life reading this book and I think lots of you would be too!(Side Note: I followed JP’s advice to the letter and my current relationship is peaceful and good in way I never thought possible. I truly believe it can be possible for you too.)

I finished this book in 2 days. So good!