I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Third Edition: Understanding the Borderline Personality

I’ve been meaning to reread this for a long time and am so glad I did. I found it hugely informative and relatable (to those with BPD like me) Fascinating that up to 6% of Americans exhibit primary symptoms of BPD although many studies suggest this figure is an underestimate. In most cases BPD is a secondary diagnosis such as alcoholism, anorexia, depression, psychosis, bipolar, anxiety and so on. I was diagnosed with depression in the UK. And it is officially recognised as a major mental health problem in America today. The author calls it ‘a modern-day plague.’ There were some interesting I nuggets of nsightssuch as the fact that many BPDs have decreased sensitivity to acute pain (such as self-inflicted) but high sensitivity to chronic pain. Also that BPD exists on a spectrum of course, with many possible permuations. Another reason it’s not easy to diagnose. The book gives a sensitive but clinical in-depth analysis of the condition of BPD with a large chunk of it reassuringly devoted to how to heal. Because healing is definitely possible when the pwBPD becomes aware they have a problem – usually because of some crisis situation. Knowledge is power and I believe this book will help those with BPD and their loved ones to understand and therefore seek a cure. I highlighted around a thousand words of the book and even (rather obsessively!) copied out the quotes in a word document so I could re-read it at my leisure – it was that good and more importantly – that helpful.

I would recommend to anyone who is or knows someone with BPD

Great read

This book saved me when I was suspected of having BPD. I went straight to panic mode . I thought about BPD was do negative however this book helped me to see it differently & to change possibly mask some of my symptoms

I’ve not completed the book yet, but it’s fascinating reading. It highlights the things ‘you just take as a given’ that to the BPD person is a mamouth task, or how how a throw away comment that you felt insignificant, is a monumental moment in his or her week.

Really useful tool to help understand borderline personality disorder

I would recommend this book to anyone who cares for someone with bpd

Half way through and I'm absolutely relating to it and finding it riveting.